genuine question about regret that I am slightly embarrassed to ask
Question in the title, detail here: genuine question about regret that I am slightly embarrassed to ask.
Nothing here is medical advice, and the honest version of most of these posts is that they describe consequences rather than causes.
Fridge died in a heatwave and I lost three months of material. There was no clever lesson; I just had not thought about it.
Went up too fast because the scale had stalled and I was impatient. Got food noise I did not need and a data point I could not interpret.
If two or three other people have done the same thing we might actually learn something. Alone it is an anecdote.
best — the order this archive was captured in
Buying small from an unfamiliar supplier and testing before committing is the single procedural change that would have prevented the largest share of financial losses described on this board.
Ignored something for four days that I should have asked about on day one. That is the only genuine regret in my whole run.
Ignored something for four days that I should have asked about on day one.
meta_analysis_mo is right that it was procedural. The procedure was not written down anywhere for you to follow.
nobody gets judged here, that is the entire premise
That was a hold rather than a loss, and it resolved. Updating rather than deleting.
buy small first is the lesson that keeps being learned expensively
Cosigning that going too fast is the most repeated regret on the whole site.
Is this the first time, or a pattern you can see now?
Agreed. The failures are the part that is missing from every other board, which is why this one matters.
Left up, flaired Correction. The original stays with it — that is how this board works.
Most of what gets posted here is procedural rather than dramatic: a step skipped, a document not requested, a temperature not considered, a pace chosen out of impatience.
the regret is usually about pace, not about the decision
log it while it is fresh, memory tidies things up
That reads as a warning about a documented supplier and the events you describe are about a shop nobody has any record of.
Agreed — somebody is at exactly the point you were at, reading this, and it will land differently for them than any success story.
Agreed — somebody is at exactly the point you were at, reading this, and it will land differently for them than any success story.
This is why the board exists. Nobody else publishes this part.
Told everybody, then stopped, then had to tell everybody that too. That was harder than any of the rest of it.
the fridge failure story happens every summer
Push back: you did not lose that money by being stupid. You lost it to a shop with nothing verifiable on file, which is a different thing.
Escalating faster than the schedule allows is the most frequently described regret on the site, and the mechanism is straightforward: tolerance is the limiting factor and it does not care about impatience.
Are you being harder on yourself than you would be on somebody else posting this?
Are you being harder on yourself than you would be on somebody else posting this?
Disagreeing with the self-blame in this line. Some of it is luck and treating everything as a lesson is its own trap.
going up too fast is the most repeated regret on this board
going up too fast is the most repeated regret on this board
Adding the thing that would have caught it earliest — buy small and test before committing.
Escalating faster than the schedule allows is the most frequently described regret on the site, and the mechanism is straightforward: tolerance is the
Agreed — and being harder on yourself than you would be on somebody else posting the same thing is the pattern here.
Chased the scale instead of the measurements for a year and made myself miserable for no additional progress.
somebody will read this at the point you were at, and it will help
What would you do differently, specifically?
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