why does nobody talk about regret
Slightly embarrassed to be asking this, but: why does nobody talk about regret. Ignored something for four days that I should have asked about on day one. That is the only genuine regret in my whole run. On being wrong in public, which is the best thing that happens here. Several of the most valuable posts on this…
Name removed. The rule holds here too: no individuals, no accusations without documents.
Yes. Buy small first. It is the cheapest lesson on the site and it keeps being learned the expensive way.
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burned_once_twice is right that it was procedural. The procedure was not written down anywhere for you to follow.
Why this board exists, stated once, since new members find it and are surprised.
Every other community surface on this site is a record of things that worked, because people post when they have something to show. That produces an archive with a systematic bias, and somebody at week three reads it and concludes that their difficult month is unusual.
This board is the counterweight. The rule is that nobody gets judged, that corrections stay up, and that the failures are written down with the same care as the successes. It is the least-visited part of the site and the part I would keep if I could only keep one.
Escalating faster than the schedule allows is the most frequently described regret on the site, and the mechanism is straightforward: tolerance is the limiting factor and it does not care about impatience.
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Adding the thing that would have caught it earliest — buy small and test before committing.
accusing the wrong party and correcting it publicly is the best kind of post here
Same. The thing that went wrong for me was procedural and boring and it cost me a lot.
money lost to a shop with nothing on file is the recurring story
money lost to a shop with nothing on file is the recurring story
Disagreeing with the self-blame in this line. Some of it is luck and treating everything as a lesson is its own trap.
going up too fast is the most repeated regret on this board
Fridge died in a heatwave and I lost three months of material. There was no clever lesson; I just had not thought about it.
stopping for financial reasons is not a personal failure