do confirmations actually matter or is it forum lore at this point
Trying to get a straight answer on this: do confirmations actually matter or is it forum lore at this point. The transaction hash is the canonical receipt: it is public, verifiable by either party, and it is what a support query should quote. Some chains require a memo or destination tag to route funds to the right…
Which network, exactly?
This. A test transaction on a large order costs a fraction of the fee and removes the whole class of risk.
the same token exists on several chains and they are not interchangeable
the same token exists on several chains and they are not interchangeable
Disagreeing here: that is a network fee at a busy hour and it is not the supplier’s doing.
the memo field matters on the chains that use one
A token symbol identifies an asset, not a network. The same symbol commonly exists on several chains with incompatible address formats, and sending across that boundary is generally unrecoverable.
Agreed. Network first, address second, amount third, and in that order every time.
Escrow is not standard in this space. Wanting it is reasonable; expecting it as default is not.
Careful, that address format belongs to a different chain and sending to it would not end well.